It’s completely understandable how many couples want to elope because they want to avoid the stress, however, telling your family your elopement plan is not exactly a pleasant thing to do. In fact, some engaged couples truly struggle with this part.
If you’re lucky, your family will understand and respect your decision and wish you well. But most of the time, you will be left with a burden of hurting them, especially your parents. And having to deal with the anger and disappointment directed towards you is the least ideal way to get married under such a circumstance.
Below are some things you can do when you break the news about your elopement
Tell them as early as you can
As much as possible, do not delay. As soon as you’re ready, go tell them right away before you change your mind. Telling your parents in advance that you’re eloping will at least give them some time to adjust and hopefully, warm up to the idea. If you announce to them right on when you will be eloping that day will only hurt them more.
Communicate your reasoning well
No matter what your reasons are behind your decision to elope, break it to them as gently and as heartily as possible. Let them know how you have struggled to come to your decision but you truly want it and that you believe and think it is the best option for the two of you as a couple. They may not take the idea well at first, but if they hear how sincere and excited you are about your decision, they may eventually come to accept it.
Explain how it is not about them
Most likely, your reason to elope is not to exclude your family and everyone else, but you just want to have your special day with just the two of you. Be sure to explain to your family this and that just because they are not there on your big day doesn’t mean you love them less. Be firm and clear on your stand that it is never about them.
Look for ways that will involve them somehow
To lessen the hurt your family feels toward your decision, find ways that you can include them on some aspects of your wedding. Perhaps you can hold a small gathering to celebrate your elopement, give them tasks for your wedding plans or ask some ideas from them on anything about your special day. Just be sure to make them still feel involved in your relationship so that they won’t feel left out and unimportant.
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